Romantic black love. Yes. I am talking about black men and black women loving each other. I am a fan. And when I see it happening, it makes it that much more real. Black love. Unity. It’s like a show to the world that says, “we can survive”. Don’t get me wrong, I love the love that goes beyond race but, there is something about black love being something that is a journey. It exceeds the boundaries of black women and black men been seen as their own kryptonite. I like to see the eroding of the stereotype of the black woman as a harsh critic that pushes the black men towards the arms of another race. This is the true essence of the black queen and her black king.
black love, love smiles...
Black erotic love...
Cooking for love...
Black couples getting along on a double date...
Something in the twinkle of their eyes...
Here is to all the black couples who are truly in love. I am smiling 
Cute interracial couples. Okay many are models but…you get the idea. The following is just a taste of some photos I found online that have interracial couples in a depiction of interracial love. Black women with white men or black men with white women vice versa. Ebony meets Vanilla or Vanilla meets Ebony. I find myself coining interracial relationships to food. Enjoy.
If you have some couple pictures to share (even of yourself), send them to me at sayit@muchsaidbyjane.com I will make sure to sort and you will get to see them on the site in an upcoming post.
Smootcha
Deep Deep inhale
Lovers in the fields
Hot summer love
Fields of Gold and Kisses
Laughter and summer day flirting
Here is to Vanilla and Ebony and Ebony and Vanilla next up, black love…stay tuned.
It didn't Start with Snoop Dog....
Sitting in an empty hallway. Minding my own business. I see a man approaching. He moves with a bounce, nibbling slowly on a toothpick as he walks towards me. I can see him slowly smiling. I know what’s coming. “Shawty let me holla at your fine self “. I slowly get up. Cascading sweat, I don’t know why. I am alone. He’s sick, quick, nice and smooth. Some call him the Shakespeare of the streets. I look twice when he utters a vile song. I walk and touch the pain of the sore earth beneath me. I am a flower. I have thorns. I walk away.
Here is to finding a rhyming love.
Picture a nice sunset slowly breezing through the windows. The evening cascading light slowly filtering it’s warmth into the living room. You don’t have to be a black woman or a white woman. You just have to be. That is enough. You look at tabby, he looks back at you. Yes, you are officially qualified to teach a graduate class for Spinster 101. Here are a few 10 tips on how to be a spinster for life.
1. Constant Nagging:
Reverse the situation, would you like to be nagged by your beau? How sexy to be treated like a child. Plus a man who is constantly nagged will proceed to act like a child just to spite you. Watch and see…
2. Constant Baby Talk:
This is a no-no in the initial stages. It will be a sure on-set relationship breaker. It like him wanting you for sex right from the get-go. He’ll think you are after baby-making machines. In his mind he can picture trading in his sports car for a mini-van….
3. Where you been at boo?
This is the constant insecure woman who does nothing but to wait for her man. She is insecure with a big I.
4. Being readily available.
Would you want something that was readily given to you or that one something that you can barely get. The signed item by someone you admire or the generic mass copy in the market?
5. Not taking care of yourself
This lady has let herself go. Her man seems to love her body so what? He’s seen me naked right? He loves me both ways and wants me to eat…oh oh. Once you become too comfortable, the like a flame to the wind…
6. Fierce Independent Woman disease:
Yes Beyonce sang about “All the Single Ladies” but get this, she is not single! Independent? Yes. Acknowledging that there are some things she could get her man to help her with….big YES. An island is a lonely place…
7. Lack of your own passions:
A woman who has her own thing going is fierce because she shows she is dynamic. She has her own goings that define her. She inherits a strong identity of herself.
8. The playa
This lady is going out to one door and before that door closes, she has her foot stopping the other. As R. Kelly said, “Playas get lonely too”
9. The Desperate Lady
This lady is willing to go find every Tom, Dick and Harry in the market. The smell of desperation is overwhelming. Sadly it is easily detected and the encounters are already putting their running shoes on. Men, like women, also like what they can’t easily have.
10. The Low-esteem Lady
Am I too fat? I must be too skinny. Am I prettier than her? Nothing worse than insecurity. It brings a certain discomfort to the man since he now has to lie (on most cases). It also takes points off the attraction since your beau can sense the insecurity and lack of confidence… Definitely NOT hot.
So what do you all think. Add on to the list.
Valentine Day Movies and Gift Ideas
I am already anticipating Valentine Day with all the love and romance around. It doesn’t have to be just about chocolates. I happen to think that every Valentine Day should be diverse. From chocolates one year to a great escape of “just the two of us”. It is really a matter of finding a way to acknowledge you Valentine and to be able to have that flutter in your heart for the one you love. My take is that Valentine Day gift ideas have to be meaningful. A meaningful Valentine Day will get your special other to notice you as a thoughtful individual who remembers even the little things. Ladies, your men want that. Men, your ladies want that too. So I don’t see why you both can’t cuddle to the 10 movies that I posted on the link below that will set the mood for your Valentine…..who knows what could happen next. I have posted a list of 10 MUST SEE movies for Valentine Day and some are romantic while others are romantic, but at the same time, have a mixture of human sadness. I really fell in love with all the movies. I just had to share. Here is the link:
"What do you have that I can't give to myself?"
When I saw the Nightline interview, I started to look around at many of the black ladies around me. You can never guess what I found…..YES, they are single. Many black women are singe! The echoed statements of black women being out of the dating pool is serious. It is true. I have heard statements such as this, “there are no good black men around”, “I am waiting for the one”. These revelations manifest a dying thirst for a shinning prince with armour on Napoleon’s horse. But, have the expectations risen beyond what can realistically be achieved? Why are so many black women single? Here are my 3 points on why some black women are SERIOUSLY single.
1. They may date other races but meanwhile, they are waiting for the true black man to come rescue them. This leads to a lack of commitment to their present lover and a final cut of the world of “connections”. Explore other races my dear women. Look at the horrifying statistic that only 54% of black men are eligible to pop the question. The rest are incarcerated or do not have high school diplomas, married to other races e.t.c. Translation, there is not enough black man to around for all the black women. Be open to loving men from other races!
2. Attitudes of “I can take care of my damn self”! This is the “independent black woman” syndrome. It has taken many of our black ladies. Men are frightened at an overly declared “independent” woman. It does not allow them to be men. I am not saying to abandon your independent streak but rather, allow a man to feel like a man by giving him some form of sign that he is needed. Men like to feel needed in a relationship. They were born to hunt and gather for their families. They fear that whatever they may bring to the relationship, you may not require. This destroys the role of a man as a protector, provider and rescuer.
3. Ladies are traveling with a lethal girlfriends packs at all times. A huge group of ladies is highly intimidating for a man to approach. It seriously echoes a vibe of “man-haters”. It is a vibe for “single black woman who don’t need a man”. At the end of the day it will make you a true single black woman if men are constantly scared of the pride of lions traveling together. You form a convoy and that is a big NO NO. Ladies need to leave their friends at home and be confident is sitting alone in that coffee shop, shopping near that men suit store…. Just ask yourself this question, would you approach a group of ten men as opposed to one? I rest my case.
Check this Nightline clip and be the judge.
Here is to extinction of the single black woman syndrome.
Wondering what to do on New Years? Do you need some New Years party ideas? You can have fun on New Year with your special persons and still be able to keep it all on your budget. Have a cozy, memorable, hassle-free New Year’s party. These ideas are endless and allow you to improvise.
Check out my recently published content on AC:
New Year’s Party Ideas
Here is to finding memories on New Year’s day. Happy New Year full of New Year party ideas.
At times, we hold on to the promise of never being left. We always want to be the ones leaving instead. It makes us desperate. It consumes our energy to hold on to a person. To force love. Love can not be forced. You can not hold on to a person who doesn’t want to be held on to. This to me is not love. Love is natural. A careless falling into each other. A lack of caution as you proceed into loving each other. A unguarded front without chains and gates.
I Like these Lyrics by Nashville songstress Pam Tillis called, Cleopatra, The Queen of Denial.
“I knew he didn’t have any money Yeah that’s why he couldn’t buy me a ring Oh and just because he bought himself a brand new pickup
truck Really didn’t prove anything And he never had to say he loved me I could see it every time he smiled Just call me Cleopatra
everybody, ’cause I’m the Queen of Denial”
Here is to letting go and letting love take over
I figure it’s recession time and Christmas will be around the corner soon. Couples want to get all warm and snugly together. You also want to have time doing this together. Picture a candlelight dinner, a space between the fire-place e.t.c. It doesn’t have to be a systematic arrangement. Be spontaneous, be fun and flexible with it. Here are my 5 suggestions.
1. Dinner Nights
Arrange a fair cookout session. You cook for your beau or he cooks for you. Or better yet, you can both get together and have a mutual cookout session together. Try some strawberry and whip cream for in-between snack
2. Arrange a trip to go see a Christmas attraction
Go to a place in your city where they have a great Christmas attraction, gingerbread houses. Grab a hot mocha from a coffee shop and head out for a romantic evening. Another option, drive around the night scene looking at decorations and listening to ambient music to ring in the romantic mood….who knows where you will end up when the romance sounds take you flying.
3. Movie Marathon
Cozy times spent inside are always memorable. Make sure you have tons of movies and snacks. Then after that, all you need are blankets. Believe me the movie marathon on a holiday night is always a fond memory for everyone involved. A time to bond and be in each others arms.
4. Ice-Skating
Go ice-skating. And like me (shhh I can not skate). It’s a change for my man to horn his craft of teaching his lady how to navigate the ice. Plus, men love to be useful so why not let them!
5. Music and Craft Night
Have each of you bring a mix of your top 10 favorite songs on a CD. Make a copy for each of you. Go to the craft store and buy some hemp. You can get it at any craft store. Go online and find directions for hemp bracelets. These directions will tell you how to make a variety of easy yet stylish bracelets. Get together and listen to each other’s songs and make bracelets together. Both of you will leave with a piece of jewelry and a new CD.
Here is to feeling the love in the holiday seasons.
Happy Holidays
I want to find out how many people are into the whole idea of sharing some couple pictures on here. I am planning to be featuring couples on my site (interracial, black love, e.t.c) however, I want to start with a poll first before I integrated the whole notion into the blog. Let me know via direct commenting on the blog or, email me at
sayit@muchsaidbyjane.com
Dorothy Dandridge and Harry Belafonte in "Carmen Jones"
Here is to having a lovely audience,
Jane
My soul wanders and stops amidst storms.
The lighthouse lit brightly.
Unable to turn and find you laying in the deep darkness of the waters.
I think of you when I feel that dry wind.
I Walk that narrow path and the eye is a witness of the coming of a storm.
Leaves talking, whispering, wanting me to remember your name.
Barren with thoughts.
To remember.
You stood once where I stand now.
Charmed with elegance.
Inescapable.
I have set you free.
Put all your questions to rest if you are wondering an array of questions:
“Do black women preffer white or black men?”
“Do black men preffer white or black women”
“What about white men?
“What about white women?”
I say it’s all in the experience you’ve had with either race but apparently there is a guide of books to help you adapt to that particular choclate fundue or that vanilla latte *wink*. I say this is the most silliest book made by some racial fetish obsessed author. I will not be picking this junk anytime soon.
Reality check – if you want to date somebody, just strike up a conversation, see if you and the person have common interests – and if they’re single, and take it from there.
But these books present a horrible world view where there are these inherent differences in race, and that all people of the same race have identical attitudes.
If somebody approaches interracial dating with that mentality, they are pretty much guaranteed at failure – but that’ s exactly the mentality these books encourage!!!
Here is to non-mechanical love,
muchsaidbyJane
"Elin did you go through my phone? I'm an EXTREMELY private person okay? I need you to tell me?"
Not to add on to the damage that the media is instigating but, I just could not resist. Here is my slice of the cake of gossip. Some of you have been taking a gluttonous serving mmmmhhh…eat some more here.
Mrs. Woods with twin
A male friend of mine said these exact words: “If I had a beauty like that, I would seal her in a glass tube and protect her and never leave her for anyone”. I responded:
“If you had a beauty like that you would seal her inside so you can look what’s on the outside but she would never know”.
So what’s the deal. On the plus side, Elin can get her big pay day if the marriage falls into the wrong course. On the negative side, ladies, if Tiger can cheat on a gracious, modelesque, young Swedish bella like that…..let your thoughts wonder. I am not putting a hopeless final note way below all my bass clef fellas. I am simply stating that a wanderer is forever lost in a sea of skirts. Marvelously looking like the curious children who visit Charlie’s Chocolate factory: looking at all the wrappings of the candy, popping gum at the factory, approaching the wrapped candy and proceeding to unwrap it……
"So Ummm Tiger, are you cheating on me with my own twin sister?"
“Oh no you didn’t tiger” said Elin Nordegren. I say Oh yes he did and he’s not the first. Not excusing Mr. Woods from his insepidious behaviour. But where are the women in this. A man once said to me, a woman is as classy as she allows herself to be. A woman is as cheated as she allows herself to be.
So it got me to know that some are just better LIVING the lie. Some are just better LEAVING the lie.
Here is to exposing and bringing to light.
Why 70 % of black women are single!
Do you really need those 2 degrees, a masters plus a doctorate in corporate law?
Think that an academic degree makes you more attractive! I’ve come across women so educated that by the time they finally look up from their textbooks, and professional accomplishments; -either all the men in their age range are already in committed relationships, married -or have now started looking for younger women.
Some sad news that you probably do not want to hear is: As a woman you are valued and viewed through your youth and beauty. A man is usually judged more through their accomplishments and success (especially financially!!).
Now I am not by any means trying to imply that education is unimportant or unnecessary, -nor that we should all as women just get married and become stay at home mothers (I have nothing against staying at home to take care of children)-but every woman should be able to question, at what cost are you going to sacrifice the majority of life’s great joys and adventures in exchange for your accomplishments! It is all about finding the right balance between being a powerhouse and career driven goal oriented woman, as well as becoming a woman capable of maintaining and cultivating a relationship, and therefore not missing out on happiness in exchange for textbooks and doctoral dissertations.
You are too picky!
I am by no means implying you choose any scrub or uneducated scrub of a man that comes your way.
Are you being realistic! Does he really need to be extremely handsome and extremely rich and dress a certain way? Does he need to be extremely wealthy, only a certain race, a specific height or dress a certain way and drive an approved car? Are these your most important attributes when looking for a man? Perhaps you have closed all doors to having a wonderful relationship with a man, all because race is an issue you are not willing to get past. I have a friend who refuses that there might be a possibility she could date outside her race and even end up with a man outside her race! Needless to say, she is still single, lonely and getting extremely desperate on a day to day basis.
You’re superficial and a gold digger in disguise:
Know that personality is more important than looks!
Are looks so much more important to you than a great moral character and good heart?
If money is so important to you that you’re waiting a lifetime for a man who’s going to forever change your situation so you never have to work a day in your life, be prepared to wait a very long time; -even if you do land a tycoon with money, prenuptial agreements are in existence and popular with a wealthy wise men that do not wish to see themselves demoted from billionaire to a millionaire, when you finally decide enough years have passed to execute your original “I won the lottery by marrying a rich man” plan.
Let love find you, because when you are looking for the one in every grocery isle, every bookstore, every party, in restaurants,… under tables, online e.t.c it’s is just another exercise in futility. You’ll be surprised when you’re least aware!
Till next time, love, joy and peace , it all starts from within.
There’s someone out there for you…Good luck single and extra picky woman, !
Yours truly,
Eastern Sunrise
New News News. I have a new co-author who will be helping me churn and spin the couldrum to making some magic. Okay I admit. I allways like a new touch, a new script and a new way of looking into it. So to introduce this new author, she is my sister who will be joining the site. Her articles will have a wisp of her own spunk and tone. The site is not changing but, bringing in diverse voices. She is awesome. Thanks sis.
Here is to the adoration for my new author.
She will be signing off as: Eastern Sunrise
I will be signing off as: Muchsaidbyjane
May your magic pen flow with never-ending ink.
The Unfamiliarity of The White Woman:
A black man might like to take part in a relationship with a white woman because they are not familiar with the race. This unfamiliarity makes it a treat to ensue a relationship. Everything about the race is brand new to the man made of black. This gives the relationship in itself a kind of thrill, and makes it one to store in the memory box. The white woman looks different, acts different, smells different, comes from a different world; it is a little like dating some alien who has crossed worlds in order to land on the same spot on ground floor, and this makes the white woman very exciting to experience.
A black man knows a black woman from the in to the out, and will often shrug them off as something they have already known in a past relationship. This makes the black woman a bit of a bore, which they will push away in order to end the traits that spring up like clockwork each generation past. They will opt to form a relationship with a white woman in order to get out of the little box which they live in. This will give the black male a new outlook on life, and will lead them to different hemispheres. This will make the relationship an adventure on which never to look back.
The White Woman with Lighten Those Shades:
for the black male who is sick and tired of seeing those dark black shades on their siblings, they may drift from their box of black chocolate in order to join arms with a white woman with the goal to lighten up their ethnic colour. This is a hate that many do not want to admit, as it seems as though a black man is simply using the white woman as a serving bowl in which she can pop out a light black sweetie. However it is true. A black man will form a fast growing relationship in order to use the white woman for her white looks, in order to lighten the colour of their normally black babies. This whole plan is generation progression, that can lead to light coffee looking babies with less distinguished features that separate them from the black society, and cast them into a whole new genre of their own.
The White Woman Knows The Know:
Yes, sometimes a black man will date a white woman in order to gain an insight to the type of live she leads. This may be very exciting, especially when the black man finds out that the white woman knows some very exciting people. The white woman will be able to pop out views, clues, and news about what is going on in society. She will be able to inform the black male, and educate him on an informal scale. This can be very useful to the black male, and can be very inspiring.
Here is to the understanding of love crossing the color line.
If he could.
He said.
He would have set a sail for me.
Released me from his shore.
Placed me on the high moving winds.
But the winds never came.
The peril of the sea stood sea.
The darkest night rose.
I saw him with tear-stained cheeks.
A strong wind arising.
With once strong hearts we fought.
If he could.
He would have pulled me back.
In the silent sounds of a the calm ocean I drifted.
If I could, I would have.
Here is to love and forgiveness.
Strangers we became.
Then, with a strong arm you took my hand.
As our lives engaged,
you lit my life and I held both your hands.
Now that yesterday has passed,
ours souls have indeed become one.
How fortunate we are
that we have found the love so true
that everyone is led to believe.
When one and two come together, they make 3. These ones are a midle of that one and two. For now I will just share the pictures. For a later post, I will discuss interracial relationships and children involved in it too. Till then, just enjoy your slice of pie and more will come
Nahla Ariela (Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry’s little cutie)
Stacy Dash’s progeny with hubbie, Emanuel Xuereb:
Twin cuties with parents Mike and Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon:
Tennis legend Boris Becker with Barbara Feltus, sons Noah (L) and Elias:
In all in all, cute black or white, Here is to love that leaves us popping bottles and toasting to longevity.
Age difference of the couple that I’m about to feature…..A whoopping 69 year old difference. He’s 37, she’s 106. I wonder if you can call her a cougar. I think it’s definatley a hunter and prey relationship. Maybe I’ve judged too quickly on this one. This Malaysian couple has put a stamp on age doesn’t define love. Okay, makes me question what attracted him to her and vice versa. Solve this one. I am clueless. Maybe I judged love harshly today. Did I mention this will be her 21st marriage. Yup, a hunter she is and a prey he is.
Malaysian Couple: Wook Kundur (106 years old) and Mohummud Musa (37 years old) married.
Okay. Here is a taste of it. I will be featuring odd couples on my upcoming blog post. Here is a taste:
Thanks to Tom Schopper Photography. We are smiling too.
I guess they say love is love.
Here is to that old adage becoming new again.
I promised most of you who have been e-mailing me about featuring some more interracial mingling. I want to fulfill my duty and encourage you to love without boundaries. To have a heart that inhales and gets into love. A heart that exhales as it realizes that love is love. Love is beholding one another in a promise. Love is a boundary without trespassers. It is an encouragement to explore our selves as creatures capable of unity. Dreamers with the heart that loves our own race but at the same time, a dreamer who can embrace others as well. This is my call for hearts that tremble in memories of love. It’s about who treats you right. Who makes your heart kick in that extra flutter. It is truly about the man or woman who talks to you in a room and makes you feel like you’re the only one there. Enjoy the following photos of celebrity interracial couples.
Halle opened her heart to black men but found love elsewhere. Love is love
Halle and Gabriel
Actor Justin Chambers and his wife, Keisha, have five children together.
Golf giant Tiger Woods (who is himself biracial) has opted to marry a White woman, Elin Nordegren. T
Celebrity chef Wolfgang Puck got things cooking when he tied the knot with
handbag designer Gelila Assefa in a fairy-tale wedding in Italy in 2007
Veteran actress Alfre Woodard is married to writer Roderick Spencer
Idlewild” and “Déjà Vu” actress Paula Patton was seen shaking her tail feather at hubby Robin Thicke’s NYC concert last year as he sang his rendition of D’Angelo’s “Brown Sugar.” The two fell in love in high school and have been going strong since.
Actress Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon and hubby Mike Nilon hit the jackpot with these cuties (twin sons Jax & Jaid Joseph) who were born in 2007.
Actor Cuba Gooding, Jr., is a member of the Marrying Outside the Race Club too. He and his teenage love, Sara Kapfer, married in 1994 and the couple has three kids together.
Acting great Robert De Niro married wife Grace Hightower in 1997, but the two filed for divorce in 1999. Nevertheless, this goodfella stayed by his woman during the tough times as the divorce was never finalized.
He’s Hollywood rich and she offers advice on getting rich. Together, “Good Morning America” financial contributor Mellody Hobson and “Star Wars” director George Lucas look like a million bucks.
Taye Diggs met wife Idina Menzel when they were costars on Broadway’s “Rent.” The two got married in 2003 and welcomed their first child, Walker, in September.
Naomi Campbell’s billionaire Russian boyfriend Vladimir Doronin has hinted that he is ready to get married to the catwalk diva in the near future.
Seal and Heidi Klum smile just a bit brighter, with the other by their side. The top model and international crooner married in 2005, and just welcomed their third baby together, to join Heidi’s older daughter.
Somalian supermodel Iman and British rock star David Bowie have been together since 1990. The couple has one daughter together, Alexandria Zahra Jones, as well as children from their previous marriages.
Here is to love that surpasses the limitations of color.
Cheer.
Love is beautiful. Encased in lightness, never too heavy. I saw the photos of lovely East Indian Couples captures in a moment of grace, a moment in time and place. I thought of their wedding day, the masala tea they would drink and reminisce of the first time it all happened. It made me believe that love is colorless, love is light like wind that moves through doors even when they are closed. It sheds light in the darkest night. It is truly the brightest thunder on the heaviest of storms.
Beautiful Couple was shot by Aim2Please
She leaned into him then. He whispered “Your dreams are my dreams”
She smiled gently knowing that together, they would not untangle.
The lyrical view of love.
Here is to love that exceeds the limits of color.
Wait by the Crimson Sea
Child of paintience,
Obstructed by darkness:
Dripping, dancing white lights:
Moonlights cherished together.
Lost in sincerity:
In and out of light,
Hidden by shadows.
Embraced by the sand and earth.
Calmed by whistles of wind.
Whispering to my heart-
You should be with me.
Here is to the lyrical soul that loves never-ending.
Men have a wild imagination. I bet you agree.
Here is to making up things that never exsisted in the first place.
Cheers
Love is not something to be protected.
Love dares not be encompassed in prisons.
Love is not a measure to be given.
Love can not rest in power.
For love knows power can destroy.
Love is something to be wholly unquestioned.
For love to be love, it must be felt forever.
Love just is.
Here is to love devouring reality:
No one is afraid of heights, they are afraid of the fall. No one is
afraid to play, they are afraid to lose. No one is afraid of the dark,
they are afraid of what’s in it. No one is afraid to say I love you,
they are afraid of the response.
Here is to the free reign of love:
Something tells me I had to share this one with you:
Here is to the unpredictable mind and it’s unpredictable way of finding love.
Yes to this love. Painted in vintage colors. Glowing in sweet secrecy, unencumbered by pretense. When two people were but one soul that battled in pain together and sang in united happiness. A uniting of two people in love.
Here is to love that transcends words.
Love bite is usually a sign, either of affection or possession.
Two couples strolling down the street. The man with the hand in her hand. The hands that make me question if they are the same hands that fashioned the magnet. I follow slowly behind them. The couple comes to a slow stroll. They gaze into each others eyes. No speech needs to be spoke; I think this must be love. I move silently: watching, admiring, and discerning their attraction. In a flash of an eye, his lips are on hers, they remain that way for what seems like eternity. He slowly lets her go. She slowly moves back to him. Both start to caress. I blush and think that I have invaded on their world. I can hear my friend’s definition of a voyeur but….this one is different. I’m perplexed by the magnetic force that won’t let me move. It must be the same force that brings the couple to each other. He bites her neck, she bites his. I decide that they are marking each other: You are mine and I am yours.
Here is to the discernment between affection and possesion,
Dear committed readers:
I have been away for awhile and have just been having the unfortunacy of being unconnected to the internet due to moving. I will get the carpet rolled out as soon as I settle into my new place. In the meantime, I will be doing some irregular posts. Please forgive me for that.
Waiting to get back to it,
Much Said by Jane.
Some say that the media is breaking up black couples by letting them mingle with non-black partners. They say that the image of black and black has been tampered and diluted by interracial romance. I say they don’t know love if they can harden their hearts because of color.
Sessillee Lopez in a CK ad.
Here is to those who feel colorless love:
Crazy for each other. I’ve met many of the couples. Some are just encounters. But there is always something deep inside that makes me reach out to that moment and smile knowing that happiness is grand. A careless whisper, eyes locked deep into each other….even if it were just for a moment, I capture their memory. I know that these moments will make tears or laughter. There is nothing more mysterious than the pairing of two people in laughter and love:
Vintage love.
Here is to those who feel the most free in that one moment.
My sisters and I were at the food court and noticed something peculiar: Couples eating in complete silence!
His idea of perfect peace....
It wasn’t the silence that bothered us, it was the uncomfortable vibe that was emitted and the loss of calmness and peace in that silence. This was the silence that causes one partner to grab a newspaper and pretend to be interested in the feature story….So my sisters being the jokers they are went ahead and made a laugh at it:
Sister #1: You see two couples who are sitting far apart and then two who are sitting closer together….Which ones are the married ones?
Sister #2: The ones sitting far apart?
Me: Bingo
Okay, let me be clear, I don’t fear the silence that comes with peace and comfort. I don’t fear that kind of silence based on a mutual bond and alignment of thoughts. I fear the silence of drifting lovers and a knowledge that what was once peaceful is now discomfort.
Here is to the bond of love in peace of silent places.
Me? Too picky?
So everyone keeps blowing whistles on this supposed man drought that we’re having… ok so there may be more single women than men but I think women might have a little something to do with that… we’re just too fussy!!!
The truth is… there are plenty of men out there – at the gym, the pub, work, everywhere! And they are looking for lovely ladies too. It may be true that some are looking for one night stands and can be complete A- holes, but I truly believe there are a lot of men out there like us, looking for love.
The only problem is that women are turning their noses up at these guys playing the ‘fussy’ card. We’re picking their faults and coming to the conclusion that they’re not good enough for us.
I am first to admit that I am too fussy and so are half my friends. We whine that we can’t meet a guy or there are no men out there but at the end of the day, there are, we’re just not giving them a chance! We’re very quick to make up our minds when we meet someone, that they’re not for us, so quick that we hardly know them.
But here’s the other side of the argument… sure, women are fussy but why push something if nothing is there. Ideally, you want to be physically and mentally attracted to someone, right? But what happens if something is missing? Do you keep at it trying to find that attraction or is a waste of time?
Isn’t love suppose to come easily?
True, maybe women need to give men more time before closing the book on them – maybe we might not get a lover but more a great friend out of them. Who knows, they might just be perfect for one of our friends.
Here is to love in impossible places:
Give the nerd a chance.
You and I were always better off. Standing in places no one had stood before. Going to places unvisited by us. I wrote this for you. These words were meant for you:
You danced as I whispered: "This is a moment in time when all uncertainty is forever certain""
You and I were unable to dance in small spaces.
You said time would stop for us.
You and I became king and queen of a domain.
You said this moment would last forever.
You and I were the meek.
You promised a planet of our own.
You and I shared contemporary whispers.
You said we could echo beneath a cedar tree.
You and I were the train.
I bought a ticket to a different direction.
You and I stood on high places.
We both said we would never fall.
Here’s to love in unescapable places.
All my friends are getting married. Running to the altar with Bridezilla wedding plans. Like bee’s to a field of flowers. I really have not the urge to run to that path just yet. Don’t call me a commitment phobia though. “Kids”, “husband”….that’s not in my vocab just yet. Okay so what’s the deal some couples grow old together, melt hearts together and hold hands smiling like the bliss of marriage is a light that only belongs to them. In the other neighborhood, others fight the war yet to be reckoned. Is it sour or bliss? But love is still around. If only we had magic! Oh the possibilities.
Here is to love….in marriage.
Funny Feeling indeed.
The verdict is out. You are being googled. If you have ever been googled: what a funny feeling because…you know you did it a few times OR, you still DO! So the funny thing is that, the googler (aka he/she stalker) is usually unaware that he/she has revealed (with a loud trumpet mouth) the situation of the googlee (person that he/she googled)! You see that is the action that got me knowing that I had been googled.
I met a guy once, revealed my name once, and next you know, he told me the exact thing that google had told him. Clever: he thought. On the other hand it didn’t hit me till later. It didn’t hit me that I had never reveled any info to this guy apart from my name and he’d made sure to cleverly, as stalkers often have, to spell it out in full. So the vice had been created and, the mission to cyber-snoop was on. Okay so friends whisper that he likes me that all. But hey, who hasn’t cyber-stalked. I on the other hand have better ways to reach people….but it is tempting to google someone isn’t it. So go ahead and google yourself before someone else does it for you. Do some content filtering and represent yourself well. I bet you are going to go do it right now!
Here’s to the cyber-stalker/lover…You play that game so:
I can play it better.
Motorcycle love.
Let it speak.
Let it’s words be few.
A kiss in the rain.
A untamed embrace.
Let it act.
That’s romance.
Night riding. Romance on wheels.
Here is to all those promises of potential.
Of a dance in the rain and knocking off your feet by sensations of romance:
Drink to that.
If I had an ambulance, I would drive it to your house each time you picked it to dial him!
Okay should you call him? My answer is “When hell becomes a skating rink”. If I had to state that again, I would serve it with an extra hot sauce to remind you of that zing that remains in your mouth afterwards…not the great kind either. The kind that makes you want to chug a water well but knowing that water will make it worse!!!!
I am telling you it is what we call regret. A friend of mine called me to ask me if she should call the man she had recently met at a gathering. I adviced her to wait but the gurl was itching for a voice from her mysterious man. I still said no. That is why I will not spend too much on this topic. Women are creatures of their own complications (regardless of the voice of reason). There, I have said it. Hmmmm.. I am exhaling now. So anyhow, my friend not only called him but forgot that he had not taken her number hence the spelling of a red-alarming D.I.S.I.N.T.E.R.E.S.T.E.D M.A.N. I figure if a man is interested, he should be the first to call out for “hey can I get your digits miss?” So she never heard these words and yet called him. Bad mistake. She took the digits instead. I was wondering: was it a night to switch roles?
Anyhow, my point is, if you are desperate, it can be detected from miles and phone lines away. So ladies, think before calling. The man should initiate the chase and play fairly thereon after. Men love a challenge NOT an offering. If he’s Mr. Disinterested, skip that looming ship and sail onwards. Stalking is never sexy.
Here is to those who love a challenge and play fair.
Eat your desert wisely.
True Surrender
You were love at last.
A small voice with its voice unformed.
In the darkness, I whispered.
You waited.
I whisphered.
You spoke in echoes.
“I love you”
An echo that rang twice:
“I love you”.
I smiled.
You had kept my echoes.
My Sincerest Wish Is To Know You
There are black men and black women who love each other regardless of the social stigma that is constantly sold to them. Society uses a fearless tactic that is constructed to do the most horrible destruction on black relationships. It is constructed to make the black women as the enemy and the black man as a victim of her ferocious claws. Off-course this construction can also be attached to the black man. The black man is then seen as violent and uncivilized and so the black woman becomes a victim who must struggle to escape his institution. Remember shows like Cosby, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, The Bernie Mac Show and lately, My Wife and Kids? These structures showed us that they could struggle together but yet enjoy success together as well. But I’m glad to those relationships that do work out and the couples that continue to shine like hope. Here are a few of my favourite black celebrity couples, in real life and in the movies, who are holding the front lines in love:
The Washingtons are stunning and bonded in deep love.
Pauletta Pearson and her Denzel. Wow couple.
Hip hop power couple both in and out of courts.
Power-couple Jay-Z and Beyonce
In a Family That Prey’s, Tyler Perry unites black love and hope.
Tyler Perry's Family That Preys.
Angela Bassett and the family: Very adorable.
Angela Bassett and beautiful family.
Will and Jada smith are steam love, hot love, mutual love:
Timeless Love.
Obama love from mom to dad to kids to beyond the Whitehouse:
Gentleman and Lady are in love and you can tell.
Nelly needs Ashanti and Ashanti needs Nelly and that’s the way it should be. Private couple. I’m rooting for them.
Nelly and Ashanti keep it private and sweet.
Meet the Whitakers. Fierce supportive Team Whitaker.
The couple that laughs together, stays together. U digg?
Love untied by the knot but outlasting shallow perceptions.
Happily unmarried. Oprah and her Stedman.
Ruby Dee and Ozzie Davis: Till death did them apart:
Camille and Bill Cosby: Love outlast:
Married over 40 years. Family man and woman.
Omar Epps and wifey:
Love within love.
Rodney and Holly Robinson:
Going strong.
Okay I had to close with a cute family and hot couple Chris Rock and wife Malaak:
Super cute and I you best agree.
Here is to all the love and hope out there for black love.
There was a desparate yearning from her. She wanted to be touched.
He resisted. She calmly looked out the window. Hoping He would reach out.
There was a deep sadness in her eyes.
Once he had really understood that sadness.
Now it was a burden to him.
The train came to a stop. The second to last destination.
She decided.
She would wait no longer.
With heavy strides, a heavy heart: she drifted off the train.
Sadness swelled.
She could not hear the train pulling away.
She had waited too long.
Yup thats me.
Blank paper: “you should really write”
Me: “Yes I will get to it. As soon as I work on something else to inspire me”
Blank paper: Screaming in a wild voice: “Don’t let that thought escape. The mind is a terrible thing in forgetting. Please write on me”
Me: “No piece of miserable paper is going to command me just like you did. I will rip you right up and throw you in the paper shredder”
Paper: Secretly calling friend called Pen. “Hey pen, just go ahead and do it. Empty the ink off your valve and return like you never went anywhere”
Me: (5 hours later). “Okay now I really feel inspired. Let’s get to writing”.
*picking up pen slowly and writing”* “What in Hell? No ink, that’s the only pen. I was gonna buy some more”
Yah you get the point. I have been procrastinating with a writing project that I have.
I will be back with a new pen.
Here is to loyal paper that let’s us write.
Preface: The following encounters are shared from various female friends of mine who dared go out there and experience the sexual world and worked to bring the mistakes that most women make when it comes to sex.
Here is to my friends and encounters who made that trek so we don’t have to:
Sex Politics 101: Midnight snack
1. Assuming he can get immediate arousal when it suits you. Contrary to popular belief, men don’t work on auto. It has to be a mutual effort and effect.
2. Envisioning that kissing needs to be this sweet romantic thing all the time. In the passion of the moment, it may become animalistic so, play along.
3. Expecting him to cuddle. Men and women are constructed differently. Sex makes most women want to talk and bond and all that jazz. It makes men pass out. It’s a biological thing. Stop fighting it, and stop holding it over his head
5. Expecting him to fall asleep with you in his arms. That neediness can be uncomfortable after a while. A little snuggling isn’t unreasonable, but when it’s time to actually sleep? An arm draped over you should suffice.
6. Expecting him to always lay on the charm and romance. Sometimes, that’s nice. Sometimes. But expecting him to be all roses and candles all the time is like expecting you to act like a pornstar all the time. If you’re not willing to do that, don’t expect him to go that path for you.
8. Using Cosmo as a sex bible. I dont know who comes up with half those rules, but I’m pretty sure they need some major theraphy.
9. Not moving at all. Also known as a dead fish. Do something to indicate that you 1) are not dead and 2) didn’t suffer a minor stroke rendering you unable to move.
Like Fish Suicide
11. Expecting him to undress himself with any amount of grace. He’s an animal in heat. Be glad he bothered to take his attire all the way off. If it concerns you so much, undress him yourself.
12. Not shaving your legs. A wooly mammoth is only cute in animated films not in human form!
13. Assuming that sex means a relationship. The only relationship you have is that he has now stuck his Doom-doo dilly in your Juum- Juu. That’s as far as it goes unless otherwise noted. Make sure the feeling is mutual.
14. Leaving condoms up to him. If you’re sexually active and insist that he uses a condom, I suggest buying a box and keeping it by your bed. Not all men keep them on them, and it’s just as much your responsibility as it is his. If you think that makes you a slut, you shouldn’t be having sex anyway. Don’t force it.
15. Refusing to be spontaneous.
16. Undressing in the dark. If you’re shy, dim the lights, but give the man something to see. No ripping off the clothes and diving under the covers, it may make him or her think you have some scary parts.
35. Expecting him to handle you like a porcelain doll. I’d hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you’re not going to break.
36. Refusing to try things in the name of “making love”.
Lonesome dove.
Far from the crowd
Whom did you want
To share your secret soul
To whom does your heart reveal
A passage so hidden
That I can not see.
Here is to noticing those that don’t notice themselves.
In the world of movies. interracial relationships have grown into a dynamic age. An edge with a lot of mixes. If you put a black woman and a black man together, it becomes a black movie. If you put a white man and a white woman together, it is the white family. On the other hand, if you put a black man and white woman together, it is a conflict. If you put a black woman and a white man, it becomes a white-man entitlement syndrome! But on the other side, when you mix the minority races, it is captured as more acceptable. A belonging together of those who don’t “belong”. Example. a black man and a Latina woman are seen as more acceptable than a date with a white woman.
If there are more movies that I have not mentioned, add them to the list .
Here is to the movies that portray those relationships. The movies that show that love has encountered resistance but love has no boundaries for those who choose love.
1. A Bronx Tale
Calogero meets a black girl named Jane and starts dating her.
2. Missisipi Masala
Denzel Washington falls in love with an Indian lady.
3. Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner
Sidney Poitier's welcome to the dinner table.
4. Something New
Simon Baker takes on Sanna Lathan.
5. Jungle Fever
Races mixing...let the action begin.
6. Save The Last Dance
Julia Stiles and Sean Pattrick Thomas dance into it.
7. O (with Mekhi Phifer)
Julia Stiles is at it again?
8. Monster’s Ball
Billy Bob goes for Halle Berry? Who wouldn't?
10. Boiler Room
Giovanni Ribisi and Nia Long have the flames burning...
11. Faking Da Funk
Tatyana Ali falls for an Asian boy
12. Black and White (1999)
Mike and Claudia in a ring of attraction.
13. Made in America
Whoopie and Ted Danson...mmm this moma has love of Vanilla.
Corrina Corrina….
Mizz Goldberg did it again....I don't blame you, I love a double scoop of Vanilla please.
14. He got Game
He Got Game----Spike Lee film.
15. Guess Who (remake with Ashton Kutcher)
Mom, dad, meet my white boyfriend....twist on Guess Whose Coming to Dinner.
16. Romeo Must Die
The Late Aaliyah in the arms of Jet Li
17. A Patch of Blue
Sidney is truly a vanilla lady magnet.
18. Strange Days (with Angela Basset and Ralph Fiennes)
Angela Bassett in the arms of Ralph Fiennes. So Fine. Who can resist.
29. Zebrahead
Michael Rapaport in a love-story set in Detroit.
30. Lakeview Terrace
Patrick Wilson and Kerry Washington look hot together but, Samuel L. Jackson says "HELL TO THE NO"
31. The Family That Preys (Sanna Lathan who rejects her black husband for a white male at the workplace)
Sanna Lathan runs from black hubby (Rockmond Dunbar) into the arms of a white co-worker (Cole Hauser)
32. Hitch: I’m sorry Will. We love you but this movie should have been called: “Ditch”
Lovable characters, terrible movie. Oh why Prince of Bel-Air? Art thou so desperado?
33. Out of Time
Denzel and Eva Mendez...mmm Eva likes brown choclate.."oh no you didn't" Leave us Denzel.
34. The Mix
Usher: "damn gurl don't be looking at me like that. There's other fine ladies who want this"
35. Under Classmen
Nick Cannon aka Mariah Carey's buttler. Enough said.
36. American Gangster
Denzel and Puerto Rican beauty queen..."oh no you didn't Denzel" said the voice of a million black sistas.
37. Money Train
Wesley Snipes and JLO around the block.
38. Training Day
Eva and Denzel. Eva, we all like Denzel so that's not a secret.
39. The Bodyguard
Whitney Houston and Kevin Costner...Bodyguard was right. Guard my body.
40. Liberty Heights
Ben Foster. I would date you 1000% Rebekah Johnson, you were a heart stealer.
It’s rare these days for people to grow old together. To be at that feast of love together. To be there for each other through sickness, trials and tribulations. It is rare for the roses to magically appear and the sky to be painted with “I Love You”. Sitting in silence but knowing there is love within that silence.
There is hope for love still. I must be a hopeless romantic. Yes I am. There is hope to ignite the flame. Remember your love the way you first met them. The love is still the same. Love does not change. We change.
Church couple doing their walk.
Unto old age.
Here is to the charm of love.
May it find you and ignite you to share it.
Thick as Thieves
Human being, we love to admire, to dream to imagine ourselves with acquisitions that are, sometimes, not rightfully ours. You’ve done it, I’ve done it. Even the preacher has probably fallen to what I like to call: Envy. I am specifically talking about stealing someone’s girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance, wife, husband, grandmother. Ok you get the statement. We are naturally inclined to want what others want is that not right? Women find men who are already in relationships more desirable than the single one walking solo. Why is that?
I think that it’s all about looking at that person (who is by the way CLEARLY taken) as an item. Let me use an analogy. If you go by a restaurant during a diner rush, and keep in mind both restaurants are in close proximity, but you find that one is buzzing with a lineup and the other is still as a graveyard…which one did you pick to line up at?
I would pick the buzzing one. I would wonder what is wrong with the quiet one.
Did someone get sick with salmonella and they got sued?
You catch my drift? Ya I think you comprehend. Women think like this:
Why is that man alone?
Is there something wrong with him?
Commitment issues?
These are the same questions that lead to the becoming of the “slut who stole my boyfriend” phenomena. Come to think of it, I constantly hear women being reffered to as the thieves but never the men. I hardly EVER hear a man reffered as: “woman stealing slut”, “girlfriend stealer” e.t.c. Maybe they play the game silently?
So back to the wanting of wanting of something that has already been chosen. This wanting comes with: The assumption that the acquisition (in demand) is free of flaws so hence the ripe, and early picking. I believe men think like thieves but not to a great level like the females. But to me, this method of stealing is hopeless. I say that you can’t really have what was not yours in the first place.
Here is to those who find stealing ridicioulous
Perhaps there is power in man-stealing when there's a willingness to be stolen?
Oh my gosh baby how did he find the motel?
Women Women, we do cheat. I am not saying that I have ever cheated. Matter of fact, beware of women who are talking about their man being a:
“Good for nothing S.O.B”
“Two timing M@#$%^@@#$”
Yes those are the words spoken in the circles of suspecting “victims”. I am a big cheerleader for faithfulness but…. I do acknowledge that women do cheat as well. And when they cheat: They are viscous. But there is a huge difference in the way women and men cheat:
Men cheat with the woman next door…
Women go across town…
Which one do you think will get caught???
Yes the woman is a sly fox who treads on waters far from land so in the end…she never gets caught.
Here is to those who are going to master the art of catching the sly fox.
Equalize the game.
The time is now...learn the patterns.
Here it is:
1.) I have a premonition that there are ladies out there who are really huffed and puffed and motivated to greater elevation ever since they heard the diva herself croon “Put a ring on it”.
2.) I also have a vision that there are boyfriends and fiances, who were suddenly attacked by an urgent Military of Female Officials to just: ”Damnit, put a F&*^**$$@ ring on it”.
3.) I picture that there are women who cried in their sleep after they found out that: ”he just gave me another effing necklace that’s all”.
Don't be jealous, just ask your man to put a ring on it. Hehe
I also think that the population of single men is about to increase . To those men in marriages, you may need to up your game by…
Putting an extra ring on it.
Man: ” You mean adding another in addition to the one you have?
Wife: Ummm YAH. Put another ring on it or I’ll find someone who gladly will.
So I suspect there have been many confrontations and yelling matches.
Maybe even an eviction by the male who has just failed to just PUT A RING ON IT.
Beyonce, I usually don't do this sweetheart
Yes ladies Jay-Z may have…
Put a ring on it. But don’t go throwing those lyrics to your man.
“Cause if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it“
Don’t chase away commitment by desperation.
Love doesn’t need a trap.
Here is to all those ladies who are patient enough not to put a ring on it.
We, both men and women, have somewhat had a dream in our past or future to meet that mysterious stranger in unexpected places…in unexpected hour of day. Today I was in line at a coffee shop and there was this really handsome guy just staring and staring…..
My instincts tell me that I was an egg on a frying pan and he was cooking me on a hot pan.
Stare deeply into my eyes...that will be all for today.
That was all, he just stared and I smile and he smiled and looked away and then returned to casting glances here and there. Here I am thinking this was very much like a junior high nightmare movie:
Staring pubescent boy and woman at coffee shop.
I casually looked at his hands for a sign of the “till death do us apart” but alas…..there was NONE. I was even flying solo without any friends around me to scare this guy off. And they say women are hard to unravel???
So what in hell is wrong with men indicating that they are interested and yet never approaching?
Here is to that man who probably lives with these 2 mantras:
“what if….”
“Maybe if I had…”
There is nothing worse than an exhibited effort to create a mood only to be undermined by a blubbering silly- idiot-with- bad- speech. Imagine the animal in heath just embarking on something so disgusting that it wishes it could be un-heathed (if there was such a word).
Just some thought about bedroom etiquette and the power of speech behind those velvety soft sheets…some may be be perched on sandpaper. Here are somethings that are just better left unsaid:
1. That was so cute. Thanks
2. I can suggest a great surgeon for that.
3. Honey you know about these enhancement pills? I keep getting them on my e-mail.
4. Reminds me of the Eiffel Tower (*insert girly giggle).
5. Will you be mad if i say this….
6. Wait. I have to get something….a microscope.
7. Don’t worry, good things come in small packages.
8. Maybe it would look better with the lights off.
9. Aww it’s like a turtle. It doesn’t want to come out and play.
10. You want ketchup to go with that fry?
11. The timing is perfect….I got tested last week.
12. I forgot to mention that i recently had a transforming operation
13. Never call each other “Dear” in bed. NEVER EVER!
Maybe after, and before, your lovemaking…. Tis best to keep silent than reveal all.
Here is to those who have come to understand that silence can speak for itself and therefore, needs to remain uninterrupted!
Please Stop behind enemy lines.
The whole notion of superficiality has taken over in finding an imperfection in the world most sexiest woman….at least till another younger hottie invades the scene. You know it.
Megan Fox
Apparently her male fans are not so loyal and have diagnosed her with a “wonky thumb” deformity.
"Save us from Megan's wonky thumb"
I imagine if I could hear a conversation between two males it would proceed:
Male #1: Have you seen the thumb on Megan
Male #2: Nasty dude. You know what it reminds me of?
Male #1: All I know is…dude that thing is disgusting. I used to think she was F&&***#$ hot men.
Male #2: I know men. Now she just reminds me of that guy from Scary Movie….you know the one with the hand in the pie.
Male 1: Gross man. F*@@#$%% sick.
Scary Movie.....scary hand.
When I saw her thumb in a magazine, and later on on TMZ, I think i laughed at how ridiculous it was. I mean, this thumb will soon become the only photographed part of Megan’s body.
Photographer: “Excuse me Megan. Cover your face and body. I only want the thumb”
A perfect piece of poetry and yet we must find the off-beat lyric. So what if she has a so-called “Wonky Thumb” diagnosis. You’d think she had declared she was a circus freak with missing sex organs!
Verdict: As long as she maintains, male fans will love her. If she shows one more deformity, the chapter of her femme fatale rankings will tumble to the pitts of hell.
To all those wasting time judging and evaluating:
Here is to your pathetic need for an ego boost.
I came across this ad of a lady and her beau. Or by the body position, I am thinking it’s a needy gurl after a one-night stand romp. Anyhow here it is
Don't leave me in your Filthy Washroom
What can possibly be so arousing about standing inside a bathroom with a toilet paper background? Two star-crossed lovers trapped within the confines of a warehouse-like bathroom yet finding time to be sexy together! I guess Renova was desperate to potty train the adult target market.
Potty training has never been this sexy with your gurl….NOT.
To those who have enrolled in Renova’s Potty Training Campaign…
Here’s to your potty training into adulthood!
Hey to all:
I am just expressing my gratitude to all my readers and the blog community who gathered together to express their support through two awards:
1. They love my blog
2. They deem me an interesting creature.
A humble thank you.
Here is to you for gracing my page with love.
Lets go back to the times where we made an effort to look great for own own egos or….own special other. There is no reason that fashion can’t dine with love…
Here is to a wonderfully dressed Japanese Quartet couple.
Double Take Triple Take and all of the above....yummm.
If you know about a fashionable couple:
Submit their picture at:
sayit@muchsaidbyjane.com
Send Me Your Photos
Illustrated by Kyle T. Walsh
The famous lines embodied by the black male walking the strides of a hustler (or a wannabe at times). Making a bee-line as I brace myself:
“Can I Holla atcha”
“Baby Gurl please”
“Can I talk to you for a minute”
“Hey mami looking real good”
And one that always makes me wish I was six feet tall with the muscle tone of Schwarzenegger circa Terminator days…
“Hey I’ve got a big one for you”!
Here I was dressed in a plain t-shirt and jeans. Cat-called yet again. Other times it’s more vulgar than most. This time it was just “hey can I holla at ya”. The intersection of my emotions and the situation usually calls for a display of sassiness and a measure of defending myself. I could have off-course chosen the route via comeback
Hustler : “How much mami“
Me: “How much? Ask you mother she makes the rates”
Miraculously, I just smiled today….perhaps saving my vengeance for a later.
To all the Ladies who have been (and continue to be cat-called)….
Here is to those who find humor in the ridiculousness of a cat-call.
"Damn Vanessa you look good honey...you look good"
A friend of mine recently mentioned the B word to her man….”B.B..B…B….B…..B……B ” she had been stammering for 4 years. Finally she got to say it.
Baby
Bambino
Love Me?
You get it. Common law…they might as well be married. So my friend couldn’t say it with more confidence. But….there was a freak out: ”man down….man down”. However, he still loves her just….sans bambino. Do I hear of a lady who needs to look elsewhere for a maternal-yearning beau?
So apperently ladies: There will be NO Bambinos ALLOWED even after 4 years of hard love. Note this down.
To all the ladies feeling all maternal right now…
Your man might not be feeling it telepathically. Choose expectaions wisely.
Here is to all the babes birthed into love and sometimes….speculations.
Have those friends who wash your dirty laundry in public spaces? I know I do. At times I cringe and laugh but inside I’m the egg york waiting to explode.
Anyhow, it made me laugh thinking that if they wash my dirty laundry in public……that makes me a dirty-girl. Right. Okay. I stand there all dripping and soaked. Watch out when I put you on double spin. At least let me dry myself off first.
Here’s to great friends and their ability to wash what was not dirty in the first place.
Kudos.
I will mention the Needy Gurl.
Not the real name because I do maintain a noble air to un-noble people ..if you are out there please pipe out and listen.
Some may say “Don’t go there” but….I will go there. Matter of fact, I possess a coherent argument as of why I want the Needy gurl to VAMOOSE straight out of town….carrying nothing but her sleeping bag and toothbrush. Send for your stuff once you reach your destination. I’m sure FedEX will be around….
So, Here is my argument.
You know how you have that one best guy friend until…..
He gets a belle aka Fatal Attraction type!!!
Yes my friend has been taken away by the fatal love that now binds their loins. Great guy. Not to say that I possess the jealousy similar to Oedipus but….I want that value of friendship that we used to have. It is common for men to fall out of step with connection once they get a woman by their side. Yes I do comprende to the notion of relationships but frown at the allowance of extreme isolation.
The Signs that made me know she was needy gurl material:
1. Cut him from his circle of friends (no game watching, no beers with the guys….)
2. Got to keep tabs on him (text messages, endless voice mails concealed as concerns)
3. Extreme jealousy when man talked to female friends
4. Random trips to his place of work
5. Constantly talks about her life via Misery Isle (aka victimization)
6. Bully: constantly puts him down to break him to her advantage.
7. Overly Sexual: harnesses his control and let his…ahem…member do the talking.
8. Constantly by his side…even @ guys night out!
9. Within a month she had all her personal items at his apartment (toothbrush, feminine items e.t.c)
If I had to write a letter to Needy Gurl, it would go like this:
Dear Needy Gurl:
You are one step away from a criminal offense.
Please leave town by night.
I hope my guy regains his senses before he battles Fatal Attraction 3+4
Heres to the urge to love….without deception.
Love is just so magnetic. It is magnetic in that sense that it needs something to draw towards….
So I though about how my heart feels when I also see other couples finding each other and freeing their free spirits to be lost in love….
You Both Reach out…
The Kind that matches your Fierceness…
The Kind that You Knew you would end up with….
The One who went away but knew he had someone to come back to….
The One that professes love in the most surprising moments…
The One that you know Lasts. 60th anniversary and still strong…
Even unto old age…..
The Kind that meets you half-way….
The Kind that never feels whole….until you return.
This is Carly-Simon with the kind that braids hair and love doing it…
So Love is not a cliche nor is it a fabrication of our own desires. A wise lady, who lost her husband, told me…
Love is bond. A bond that everyone has a right to experience. She told me that the first time she
met her husband, he made her heart skip beats.
Till this day, thinking about him makes her long for that flutter.
She revealed to me that love is what the heart searches for.
The heart never lets go once it finds it.
Like food to the heart.
For everyone who has love, here is to you. For those still waiting: remember that you are indeed Loved by someone. Remember to love someone back.
Thats’ amore.
A toast for being in the mood for love and if you are with that special someone, here is a song for you.
If you are alone and open to love….here is to the strength that I hope you will find in Love.
This is from the film by Wong Kar Wai.
Here is to Yumeji’s Theme.
That’s right. You guessed it right. This are the incantations of why men say adios even to the most gorgeous femme fatales. Pay close attention mamasita. Before your man sets up his sail and takes off to a deep blue ocean as you watch him from shore.
So picture this, you have been seeing him for awhile and it’s been going great and suddenly…..
The Time Out alarm rings.
Signs of the Time Out Alarm about to ring: You have a problem trusting him and want to always control situations.
giving him nonsense when he socialises with his female friends, and have an insecurity that he will leave you.
So here it is in a little package: You are using your fear and neediness to justify hurting yourself and as a result…pushing your guy away. There I have said it. You have become a needy gurl by putting fear as a main motivator. The reality right now is that no matter how good your relationship with a man might be, or how much reassurance you scream and cry to try and get him to give you… it will NEVER be enough for you because your mind will find a way to freak you out and ruin things for you. Sorry to say it ladies but this is the number 1 highway to a cat-filled cottage. Get your knitting ready….
Ask yourself this question:
what would your man tell you and ask you for if he wasn’t afraid of freaking you out, and was open and honest?
After all, men are not as vocal as women so they must be gently led into the realm of expression. Men commonly have a kind of RESISTANCE to working through intense emotional situations in relationships.
Here is to using the pleasure principle.
Yah I meant Happy wednesday. I saw a cute old couple today. The man wearing a fedora waiting for the his old dainty love to get out of a taxi. Decked head to toe in white and grinning up at her man with love and deep respect….
The Lady reaching out to take his arm as she rose from the yellow engine. He smiled at her. No words need to be said; you can tell they are entwined in forever love. It is a thing that is lacking in this day and age….
Where is that wholesome, old-school, charming love?
He tucked her arm under his and they disappeared into a fancy restaurant. I suspect it was their anniversary. Or maybe they just celebrate each other ever so often. He whistled as he led his queen away. Together they were gone.
Here is to that couple on a Wednesday afternoon. Here is to their infectious love.
Happy Wednesday.
Ever wonder what if….what if I had approached that gurl or guy?
“what if” is a disease with it’s own poisonous venom.
Psychologies even study this fashion of regret.
It has been known to cause great anxiety and depression.
Do not let yourself become captive to “what if” synndrome.
So you see what you like and you want to approach?
So go ahead and approach. Ask yourself what is the worst that can happen? Will he/she pull out a gun and shoot you down? Spit in your face?
If they do…better now than later.
So go ahead and talk to that one guy at the end of the room. Or the girl by the water fountain. Approach with calm composure that doesn’t scream “El/ELLA DESPERADO” and you are sure to win them to listen to you.
Here’s to confidence and no regrets.
I just found a really neat site to make your profile pictures drumroll please…………AUTOMATICALLY.
Think of all all the annoying resizing that you have to do for twitter.
This site takes your normal picture size and choose the network that you want it for.
Boom it takes that network and sizes it up to fit the particular picture requirements.
Here is the site:
http://mypictr.com/
Re-size away.
On a side note:
As a woman who loves her style to mingle with the word “Bargain”. I thougt I would share this shoe sale to all the other ladies out there. I just bought the Double Platform Sandal. Wow at $179 as compared to the hefty price tag of approximately $1000.
Here is the link
http://www.louboutinsale.com
Here are my perfect date sandals that I have ordered.
Kiss your feet with the sales and have a great date.
I believe the best dates are simple yet enjoyable and enjoyable.
They are the type that leave you grinning like a fool around midday….daydreaming.
They are able to bring two people who like each other into a space of excitement and anticipation. It is the moment that counts when two lovers are entwined, when you look at him looking at you…
when you look at her smiling and having fun…
You know that what started well will end well
But most of the time, we are too nervous about making the date BIG and memorable. We are too nervous that if we don’t take our gurl or man to the Louvre then we end up embodying the “cheapskate”. A date can be something personal…away from prying eyes.
It can allow you endless moments to sneak kisses (and whatever else you’d like to do with your mate) without putting on a public show.
Fear not, do unto thy man or woman what is thoughtful and all with a huff and a puff, they will never blow your house down.
Here are just a few date moments that I believe are In the Mood For Love material:
Your crib or My Crib: Watch movies, whisper sweet little nothings…..
Camping Trip: Ladies leave your amigos at home and pack your suitcase for a sweet escape….SOLO.
Bike Trip Together…..find a nice bike trail and explore…
Eat Together at a newly discovered restauraunt…..
Cook at Home together…..Remember to Kiss the Chef.
There are so many paths to the soul….
Food
Listening
Suprises
Laughter
Here is to Endless Joy and Love.
So you’ve been asked out on a date by that one man or woman who makes your heart palpitate out of this world. You are probably sweating what you should eat or…..if you are going to eat at all Apparently there is a sexy way to eat messy food but before you learn all that lingo….stay away from what you can’t handle.
mmm...what could he possibly think is so funny?
First of all, let me tell you, you NEED to eat. Ladies out there……Men love women who actually eat on a date. So think twice before eating just a salad when your significant other wants to treat you to fine dinner. Eating is a sensual act (whether you agree or not). Plus, you don’t want to look like n eating disorder out on a binge.
Food is indeed sensual...go ahead and eat.
Next: Choose a Restauraunt
Lastly: Yes there is such a thing like date food. Respect your pearly whites before flashing them. So consider the following NO NO’s:
1.) Anything Leafy: the spinach smile is not sexy. This also includes drinks like Mojitos. The peppermint may make a friendly breath-freshener but a unwelcome leach to your teeth.
2.) Anything consisting of a sandwich with dripping sauces (aka Subway style constructions). Keep in mind that this particular sandwich eventually collapses and splits apart. Making you look like a mad hungry dog lapping at the remains. Turn off definitely. You end up looking like a construction worker kicking back at the site.
3.) Spaghetti with sauces: If you are going to indulge in Lady and the Tramp style…please cut your spaghetti with a fork. Your date doesn’t want to look up to a menacing joker clown covered in sauce.
Tip: skip the sauce in Spaghetti that often has garlic.
4.) Beans, brocolli and or spinach: Are you trying to prepare your date for a gas evacuation. Ditch these gaseous diet items for later on…at the comforts of your own home.
5.) Anything cheesy: Cheese often gives a terrible breath to the consumer and furthermore, may get stuck in your teeth and give the illusion of ”One who does not floss”. Definately no kiss for you at the end….
6.) Ribs: Ever wonder why they give you a bib? Messy business. Again, your lipstick will be smeared and make you look like that menace clown…CLOWNS are scary.
7.) Garlic and onions: The More raw, the greater the stench. Onions and garlic are a “no no” for sure. Vampires are kept at bay and…kisses may never return.
Be Cosiderate
Lastly, Food is a connection to souls so make sure you know whether your partner is a meat-eater or not. There is nothing worse than having an inconsiderate meat-eater lapping at a veal parmesan or a lamp chops meal…nothing says jerk more than a mean dedicated to butchering, and serving, cute baby animals.
Food Je t’aime.
In regards to my post on interracial dating….
I felt that as an African American gurl. It is important for me to not only acknowledge this subject but rather, to give it a clear reaction.
Some women get angry when black males venture into white territory. And in return, white males are enraged when their women prefer the “other”. In comparison, black males also view the uniting of a black woman to a white male as something that threathens their masculinity…a reminder of the white man taking, selling, and taking again.
Most of the time that black men date white women, it is viewed as a normal pursuit for the money and even romanticized in it’s own way. The black man is therefore given this permission to explore and acquire what he couldn’t in the earlier times…..I am not saying that black men don’t fall in love but instead conquer. NO, this is not my intention at all.
I am uttering a audible whisper to the fact that black females are seen as traitors when they chose the same path of exploration. We often hear our brothas screaming of how much we are “selling out”.
They term it as.…….”white man entitlement syndrome”.
We are then viewed through the lens of slavery. Returning to fulfill the wish of our massa! What massa wants, massa gets.
But we are in different times now….
That’s it for now.
Love is everywhere. Why limit its exsistence on the basis of color.
Love Love Love….makes me smile.
Heidi and Seal
Mr. George Lucas and his wife
Robert Deniro and his other half.
Lovely Couple
Even Babies…
Curious Observer…..
Aka Sexual objectification.
In response to an earlier post that I made, I started to dissect that concept of loving something that is non-moving and furthermore, non-responsive. It is a bizarre love that is almost bordering on mental illness. But, then I thought that I may be too harsh and so it occured to me:
These people are sexually and emotionally attracted to objects not resembling human beings.
What is the issue of reciprocity here?
The issue, I thought, why shouldn’t a person fall in love with a wall?
After all, the wall doesn’t have to love you back.
After all, people fall in love with people who do not return that fraction of love.
After all people are also in love with people who don’t allow you to love them.
That’s my theory.
Intense destruction of figure....check
Yes this is a warning to those of you who think Mom Jeans are a sexy fly instrument of seduction.
drumroll please……
The verdict is out, these things are HIDEOUS.
Men also support me on this one
Someone lied to women about these pants being accommodating to all shapes and sizes. Whoever lied to these poor women was a sadistic monster who wanted them to look like walking repulsion and….
bulging sausages
in possesion of a gut
Looking at them, they look like something that is taking the place of a girdle and therefore, giving someone the illusion that well…..you’ve got a lot to hide.
Built in girdle with potential illusion of a gut....check check check.
Men Verdict: Not Pretty and…
That flatter in your stomach as you watch your flame go by….
Oh My Gosh...I can't believe he made me nervous once!
And still, that feeling maintains as you enter into that special “getting to know you phase” with your dreamy other:
You jump at the phone as they call
You think about each other every other second
You fantasize and day-dream about each other
You get all jittery when you kiss
You can’t wait till you see each other
You say sweet silly things and go to random places
Hugging is enough to make you….yah okay
Then BOOM…..that initial flatter starts to fade.
Couples need to have time APART. that is the key. It is refreshing and more exciting when a woman is doing her own thing and her man is doing his own show and at end….you can meet each other half-way and find something unique to ruffle up both of your feathers. You don’t need to be glued like siamese twins. Find some independence from each other and build something that makes your relationships more intense. Even find separate friends and keep that middle-ground where you meet and discuss something that is BRAND NEW and different than having the same life and same style e.t.c.
You can get that flatter back.
Peace.
If you have heard just like me, you are probably wondering what the story behind Richard Anthony McTear Jr killing a baby …..
Richard Anthony McTear Jr
You probably have the same question like I do:
Why the hell didn’t the mother protect her baby?
I don’t know her full story but I believe this young woman, of 18, was in a cycle of an abusive relationship. It was perhaps the most despicable of all fears that held her hand from protecting her own child….from resisting this dangerous man.
By saying the following, I am not blaming the victim or saying that she had enough power to fight an abusive man of 21. I am simply saying:
The signs are always there. They can not be ignored. You can not change a violent man. You need to leave.
don't speak too soon.
There may be an opportunity where you are going on that fabulous date…all dressed up in your little black dress, wearing your new tie , ozzing of sweet heavenly cologne and together mingling with her vanilla scent. And you feel FABULOUS and ready to take on the world. You feel ready to impress….thread carefuly on this drug-like euphoria of the night. The words said now, may have to be eaten later….
1.) Politics
2.) Celeb gossip: indicates a person who has no life and dreams of her own.
3.) Your party monster ways…or past
4.) The last ex boy of yours
5.) How you hate your family
6.) Your love of money
7.) The loathing of your body
8.) Sexual conquests
9.) Specifically to my women counterparts….avoid expressing your yearning to create a bambino.
10.) Avoid appearing depserate for the next meet-up….cook up some mystery instead. Women and men both love a challenge.
You be the judge.
maybe he’s shy…
Maybe he’s a commitment phobia…
Maybe he’s just a jerk…
Maybe he has a girlfriend and you just misread his vibe…
Maybe he’s been picking up the phone and fear can’t let him dial…
Maybe he’s scared of rejection…
You be the judge. But never get stuck on maybe’s. Call and find out and then move on. There are many other luscious fish in the sea to live your life on one possibility…that may never be.
Desperation is the worst flare of garment that anyone can wear. Men or women both…it can be smelled from miles away. So what about the confusion between charm, “he got game” and plain old desperation????
Well to answer that question, desperation has a built in urgency that proceeds to create it’s presence through the physical urge. Desperation has no mystery, it is on display for all to see…
Mr. Or Mrs. Cool
Picture this, a woman or a man cooly sipping a drink, eyeing you with confidence and noticing you noticing him and all that jazz! Then picture this same stranger confidently walking up to you and saying hi and giving you a number (or requesting one) then walking away….A saved-for-tommorow daydream scenario developing…aka “can’t- get- that- damn-handsome- stranger off- my- mind ” type of scenario. On the contrary
Mr. or Mrs. Not-So- Cool
A woman or a man hurriedly approaching you then attempting to hog you and harbor you to themselves for the whole night. If he/she could put a house-arrest cuff on you…In a heart-beat, they would. Then proceeding to request your digits and calling you at the oddest of times and with persisting frequency. I see a stalker motive and a aura of desperation that will likely make the desperator look like second hand goods…all washed up, dried up and up for donation.
So after much focus and reflection. I have decided that this blog will be catering to life and relationships. Stay tuned for a more focused, yet dynamic blog on relationships and life itself.
Again and again. fashion from the past….and still thinking about the direction my blog should follow.
Inspirational fashion
So I have finally received some much needed time to revamp my blog and bring a more focused image to the blog as a whole. To begin with, this blog was pretty much a buffet of topics. Now is the time to figure out what my audience has been clicking on and really take into account what was most popular. So any comments anyone wants to leave are more than welcome. I could head in the direction of just blogging about life,politics, beauty, “how to’s”, and the possibilities are endless. Leave some feedback.
Don’t let anybody bring you down. You have your own choice of being happy and letting go of the past. Always remember that, at the end of the day, you have yourself to answer to. You have the power to your reactions. You can determine if you go to bed angry or, if you just let go. Letting go of something, from your past or anticipated future, is a freedom to yourself. It is freeing you from: worry, hatred, fear, anxiety and false perceptions. I believe that this “letting go”, is giving power to yourself. That is all.
Today I don’t feel like commenting on politics, nor life as we know it e.t.c. I feel like reporting on the life and pulse of fashion and so….I will let the pictures do the talking.
liking the color combination
Laid back but stylish
Cold and in style.
Dare to wear it...Japan Fashion
1950's dresses
vintage 1950's
1970's fashionista
1. Keep your family
2. Cherish great friendships and don\’t waste your time on the bad ones.
3. Sometimes you just have to let people go
4. Make time to be silly and don\’t spend all your life at work
5. Take time for yourself. Just you
6. Be able to be yourself and respect others
7. Never use the 10 second rule when you eat from the floor.
8. Don\’t walk alone at night.
9. Be compassionate
10. Try something new
11. Be humble and let others uplift you
12. Don\’t make long lists cause life is short
Goodnight
I gave into Twitter after debating NEVER to join the movement of chirping like birds. But none the less, follow me on my tweets at:
http://twitter.com/Muchsaidbyjane
Tweet. Tweet.
No entry
Yes we have all been there to a place where we have a great time and in the end, recieve a warm welcome back. “Mi casa es su casa” is a universal saying that translates into other languages as well. But there is is always that one person who constantly needs this licence revoked here is why:
1.) You linger too long like stale perume and…you just don’t know how, and when to leave.
2.) You snoop around: you start to quote “dear deary” entries…you know what’s in the medicine cabinet, closet? You gots to go.
3.) You talk excessively and dominate the conversation: other guests can barely get a sneeze into your ridiculous ramblings.
4.) You cuss and swear and make the host look bad for having a bad-mannered friend. Please hit the pavement now.
5.) You come into the hosts house and make a dash for the fridge acting like you own the place.
6.) You have an inclination to tell embarrasing, inapropriate, stories to the other guests (who may not necessarily know you).
7.) You insult the hosts guests (definate “NO”).
I have a short list of few laws since I believe in the “less is more” concept. The less rules I employ, the more I find out how people govern themselves and, who they truly are. In the end, I am a big believer of “mi casa es su casa”. I come from a culture that hugely embraces it….
But sometimes, the licence has got to be revoked: Put your tap shoes on and…”Get To Stepping” .
Peace
India Arie has done it again:
This album is both lyrical, yet sentimental.. Both upbeat and yet emotionally charged. Her adaptation of words and mood is a reclaim of her acceptance of the inner self and the need for appreciation. Audiences of the likes of Ledisi, Angie Stone, Lauryn Hill and Badu will enjoy this compositions. Theraphy being the main debut (featuring Gramps Morgan) is a truly beautiful track that covers the grounds of relationships…a feel good piece.
My other favorite being He Heals Me. It has a calm, melodious and grounding energy that really appealed to me. But I can’t discern among the others since they are of equal quality. I believe the horizon is endless for Ms. India.
Favorite excerpt from Therapy
He lays me on the couch and says
“how has your day been?
Tell me your problems;
I’ll help you solve them.
Come on let’s talk about it”
He sits next to me and smiles.
Listens to all of my words,
Relaxes all of my nerves.
Like breathe in (breathe in)
Let it go (shout it out)
Take deeps breathes and real slow, calm down.
Close my eyes (soft spoke)
Ease my mind (take control)
From my body please
Work your Psychology
U.K. Here we come……..
with swagger and style…
Prim and Proper
Confidence
Grand Force
Style and walk
My Fair Lady of England
Lovely
Laughing in English Accents?
Michelle and Her Prince
Meeting and Greeting
Michelle on spotlight
Michelle style
Fun fun times in the U.K
He has this white-toothed smile….
He has this way of walking…
He has these eyes that stared and made me think he could read my thoughts…
He speaks like he knows the world…
He moves with confidence…
His speaks carefully as he moistens his lips with his tongue…
He runs his hands through his perfectly dark hair when he’s frustrated…
He effortlessly wears garments that hint at the presence of his Zeus body…
He wraps his manly hands around a perfectly small coffee cup…
I stand there wondering….
Is this lust at first sight?
Let the picture speak.
I believe in love to a great extent but there is a limit to what we believe as being pure love that lacks a physical charge. We all look for beauty in some area or the other. But I also believe that a man’s character makes him truly something to be desired. That is all.
He stood in the corner.
Covered by shadows he prayed silently that someone would approach him.
He wanted to hear someone say a simple “hello”
No one came.
The silence cut the air like a knife.
The atmosphere was stone cold.
A few odd looks here and there. Some looked upon him with pity.
Yet none approached.
The lonely man remained sitting. Staring at the fire-place at the Cafe´.
Tears dancing in his eyes.
Dripping into his open book and destroying the letter he was writing.
Bleeding the ink and making words appear like one.
Still hunched over in the shadows of a brightly lit coffee shop.
He rubbed his tear-striken eyes.
No one noticed.
He paid for his meal.
Sitting close by, drinking black tea.
I noticed him walking away.
Moving in the shadows, silent tears streaming down his face.
This was the same man from my 8:00 train.
He had dropped his diary.
I chased after shadows.
He had dissapeared.
I will never know.
But he left a diary entry that read like this.
“I will change my mind if someone says hello today”
I will never know.
I never said hello.
What is life? Is it but a shadow desperately waiting to be grasped
What is it about life. It moves us, it moulds up and tightens us. It traps us in a circle but, eventually, it frees us to become one with the dust.
The very necessity of it makes us strive to prolong it. We find beauty and destruction in one. I am able to perceive a movement of euphoria but sometimes, I feel like a wanderer-wandering in the desert trying to find a well.
Life is a person walking, striding, and then sprinting. Life to me is also this same person running to catch a bus, a train, a movement of some type into something else.
Life is the ambiguity that unfolds, the expelling of awe. At the same time, life is a sorrowful venture, a spotlight on you. A flashing bright light that offers you only a moment. A moment that determines if you can produce something exceptional to keep the lights on.
A moment that determines if you lived with a purpose. It is the swell of these moments that will cause the lights to flicker on and off. My heart pounds, the sweat of my brow, my shaking voice as I rise up to the spotlight….
Will my life be a life lived with purpose?
I just lost my ipod due to what the Apple Experts call a “battery drainage”!
Is that an actual term or something they invent to a shocked ipod user as they discover that their ipod can not even turn on after a reset.
I was by no means an ipod junkie but I’m still going through an intense withdraw. I did not hike up my volume and, in fact, had it set to never exceed a certain threshold but still….the little bastard son of Apple chose to leave without a goodbye.
The decency of the Ipods loyalty…..
I cradled you, I wiped you down when you had finger prints all over your chrome shield….
I even bought you a warm cover to protect you from the cold and mean people who wanted to hurt you.
But still…..
All you Ipod owners beware. This is not product built for longevity so…
You either have to get the battery replaced (and then it dies again) or…..
Get a brand new ipod and pay a woop for the extension of the life of the disloyal ipod.
In the meantime, I am on the lookout for a replacement for my downloads.
Peace.
“The Great Wall of China’s attractive, but he’s too thick – my husband is sexier.”
“This is my husband. His name is the Berlin Wall and he was born on August 13, 1961. I expect you’ve heard of him; he is quite a celebrity. He lives in Berlin. I used to work in a pharmacy. Now I own a museum. My husband’s job was to divide East and West Berlin. He is retired now.”
Married to Berlin Wall
Some people dream of marrying and escaping to islands…
Others dream of marrying non-inanimate objects.
One woman even fell in love with the Eiffel Tower.
One man was arrested when he made love to a stop sign in public.
The mystery of sexual attraction itself has been around for ages. It was there when the Egyptians built the pyramids, there when the Romans built there empire and…it was even there when Constantine established Constantinople! But the fascination with objects is far more unusual and can often be seen as reproducing a different system entirely.
To be able to, sexually and emotionally, love an inanimate object is often seen as a masking that mimics something else in order to emerge with a more refined copy of that initial object. Consider the Eiffel Tower, the lady is able to give the Tower a life-like personality; the wall can feel emotions, the wall can receive actions of affection. But at the same time, the wall is silent. She now has the power to interpret the silence as meaning something else. She can create, and give, a personality and agency to the wall. This is a very questionable thing.
Questionable why?
I believe it then becomes a question of ethics. You give an object life and therefore, value. So, for example, in sexual intimacy, when does it become rape?
Is the object able to discern between right and wrong?
Today I attended a conference and panel led by Congo experts and MP’s. It is a shame that Congo has been left desolate and abandoned even by Canada.I will post more results from the discussions (in detail) at a later post. Below is a short poem expressing my sincere feelings towards the citizens of the Congo. I feel attached to their condition and words can not express the terror the victims must be experiencing.
I had a really emotional struggle with this picture…I wish, even for a moment, I could reach out and touch them, comfort them.
Why must you lay there and cry?
I hear your cry
My ears…
I hear them talk in words that get lost in foreign exchange
I hear their big calculators making number, switching plans…
Abandoning Congo
I see them make promise to come to your wounded children
An arm should reach for you, embrace you, surround and protect you.
A Leg should walk for you…
Stomp in war fields, walk miles and find you.
Shoulders?
Shoulders should carry you
Perched and dry, carrying you to safety
Mouths should speak for you, elevate your cry, moan for you.
I hear the echoes..
The dust that covers your eyes
The glass shard that cuts your feet
The blood that covers your body
The rain that washes and washes and gives up the washing
The sun that beats down on your healing wounds.
I see the terror…
The woman who wakes up at night to find her daughter gone
The woman who is sexually violated and dies
The surviour who lives but dies inside.
I see the military vehicles
The calmness of day
The faint whispers carried by the wind
The solemn swear that we will find you
The birds that have stopped their song
The 17,000 trained men on their jet plane home
I see the marching children with guns
Stolen childhood
The whisper of a dying woman “come back, I’m here”
The dust of the departing vehicles
The orphan who lays silently in an empty hut
I live in fear…
Fear that you may be left behind
Fear of forgetting
Do not cry
I will cry for you.
I will weep for you.
My senses have been heightened
I hear
I see
And now I speak.
This is my war.
This is my terror.
Let me be heard.
_NRFPT_01.jpg)
